Why is not the Right Question

Every person who comes to this planet lives an experience unique to them. We all made the choice to come to Earth, none of us were forced. At no point did we think it was going to be easy, because this reality is definitely not meant to be easy! We came for the experience. It’s beautiful here and a 3D reality is completely different from the norm for us. We came to do work that will move to the next level. And, we came because there are things only a physical experience can teach us.

As I said a moment ago we’re all having our own experience, learning lessons and understanding our lives through preset filters we put in place. The one thing that’s the same for each of us is everything in this reality is a teachable moment. Say that out loud to yourself and let it sink in for a bit.

Everything in this reality is a Teachable Moment!

Once we wrap our head around this truth our perspective begins to change. We see and understand things from a larger view. Nothing is random. Everything that is meant to be will be whether we learn its associated lesson or not. The delightful and frustrating part is, if we haven’t learned the lesson the cycle of behavior will continue until we do!! Good, bad or indifferent.

We are very intricate beings so some lessons can take several lifetimes to learn. Coupled with this, teachable moments go unnoticed because we forget. We forget our purpose for coming here. We forget who we really are, how powerful we are, on top of this we’re born into this amazing, beautiful, low energy reality packed to the gills with distractions meant to keep us from awakening and asking ourselves the correct questions.

So many people ask why. Why did this happen to me? Why does this keep happening to me? Why do bad things happen to good people? Why has many facets but it’s not the question we need to be asking. To ask why is like throwing gas on a fire. We’re feeding an emotional pit sending us further and further down a rabbit hole of pain and confusion. All we discover is more pain but it brings friends like anger, bitterness, and resentment along. There is no healing or resolution there.

Unfortunately many people are so wrapped up in the why they don’t recognize it’s not the question we need to be asking. The answer to the why question, is because we planned it like that but that’s a topic for a different day. The question we need to be asking ourselves is, what. By asking what we give ourselves the opportunity to slow down and examine the situation and how we reacted to it.

We all know someone, maybe ourselves if we’re being totally honest, who when talking with them always go back to a person or event that hurt them. They are so consumed with the why of the situation that they refuse to acknowledge the healing that could take place if only the right questions were asked. What happened to my relationship with my husband? What did I do wrong? What signs of a problem was I unwilling to see? What part did I play in the situation? What might have been done differently?

When we ask why based questions we’re, more often than not, drawn outward to focus blame on something or someone other than ourselves. Asking what based questions draws us in. It makes us face a mirror that perhaps we don’t want to see. It’s not easy by any stretch of the imagination. This is a mirror based in ego and our ego is not necessarily our friend. Sometimes we feel like ignoring the painful things is easier. Put the blinders on and not deal with the pain; which is why some lessons can take multiple lifetimes to learn. Living in victim mode is somehow better than doing the painful work to move forward.

There are other questions that can be asked that will take our healing deeper. What did this teach me about myself? What lessons are there to learn from this situation? What can I do to forgive and move on?

These questions aren’t easily answered but if we look at every disappointment, betrayal or situation that triggers us through the filter of what, not why we open ourselves to healing and letting go of pain that has no place in our lives or our future. From the guy who cut us off in traffic, to the rude lady in the grocery store to the jerk at the office…

Everything in this reality is a Teachable Moment!

Have a great day! Blessed Be ❤ Sharon

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