The Sad Truth

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It’s difficult to watch someone trapped deep inside fear and not be able to help. How do you help someone so wounded by life that they see no future for themselves? They keep waiting for the perfect event that will make everything better, but won’t do anything to help themselves reach that event? It’s difficult to know what to do. We can be supportive and encouraging all we want but it doesn’t help. If being supportive doesn’t help, anger and ridicule is surely not going to help. We can help financially until that is no longer an option for us, but if they will not venture out into the light, if they will not seek help to heal, or even admit they need it, what then?

The last thing they need is for family and friends to become enablers but often, because of their love for their friend or family member that is exactly what happens. By enabling they are trapping themselves in the pain of their loved one and making it worse. The enabler doesn’t want to be in this position. It simply makes life easier to help their hurting loved one to remain in their darkness. As horrible as that sounds, life continues to move forward and the enabler has to cope the best they can. If that means doing the wrong thing for the right reason, then that’s what sometimes happens.

The sad, painful truth is that we can’t do anything. In a situation where the person has an addiction problem there are options but when there is nothing like that happening, our hands are tied. It hurts so much to see their potential and their pain, to see that they are a shadow of the person they could be. We don’t know their path. Maybe being trapped in their pain is the lesson for this lifetime. All we can do is be there for them the best we possibly can, and pray they find the strength to fight their way out of the darkeness holding them in.

Have a good day.

Blessed Be ❤ Sharon

 

 

14 thoughts on “The Sad Truth

  1. This is so true for a friend of mine. They seem trapped constantly in their own pain. Living their past traumas over and over. It is sad as I can see the side of them they could be but they cannot see it and it is truly devastating. I pray everyday that they see some light in their life but the sad fact is they seem to be falling deeper into their own dark misery :(.

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    1. I know, you want so desperately to help but nothing you say seems to help. I suppose all we can do is let them fall and hope they have the strength to stand back up and fight there way back. When that happens they will be ready to let us be there for them. I wish your friend well.

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  2. My sister has been on a 12 year mission to try and help my eldest niece with drug addiction and bipolar, even to the point of driving to a dealer to pick up, financial and emotional support constantly, my poor sister is in bits – she enables my niece in this lifestyle – but everyday she fears that call she has lost her – it’s heartbreaking.

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      1. That’s the thing – she’s been in rehab more times than I could mention – extensive long term counselling – the works – but still not well, she’s off heroin but has a serious ketamine addiction – she’s skin and bone, hasn’t been able to work for past few years, I genuinely fear for her future x

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      2. It sounds like this is karmic then and she and your sister are here to experience this together. That doesn’t make it any easier on anyone though. I will send up some prayers for them.

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      3. And do you know what – my sister is ” upper class” very very wealthy – an original WAG of a professional footballer – people sometimes think it’s the lower uneducated classes that get mixed up in drugs – not the case – can touch anyone x

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